Comments for Everything I Never Wanted to Be http://everythinginever.com a memoir of alcoholism and addiction, faith and family, hope and humor by Dina Kucera Sat, 05 Nov 2011 22:17:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Reviews by jamie lynn hart http://everythinginever.com/reviews-and-comment/comment-page-1#comment-3244 jamie lynn hart Sat, 05 Nov 2011 22:17:00 +0000 http://everythinginever.com#comment-3244 Dina--Truly amazing read. you are so talented, and thank you for having the courage to share your story with the world. You made me laugh so much when i needed it the most. Best of luck to you and your future projects. Dina–Truly amazing read. you are so talented, and thank you for having the courage to share your story with the world. You made me laugh so much when i needed it the most. Best of luck to you and your future projects.

]]> Comment on Everything I Never Wanted to Be by Paul http://everythinginever.com/archives/1/comment-page-1#comment-3016 Paul Wed, 26 Oct 2011 02:03:08 +0000 http://everythinginever.com/?p=1#comment-3016 <i>Everything I Never Wanted To Be is brave and powerful, educational without being preachy. Dina Kucera’s insight and wit are sharp, her story raw and real. Her honesty and humor reminds me of Anne Lamott’s writing, but Kucera definitely has her own voice–a voice that cries out to have her pain and challenges heard, yet one that also demonstrates her huge capacity for faith, gratitude, and love of life. Hers is a fresh new voice I feel fortunate to have “heard” and one which will enlighten many to the reality of a family struggling with addiction. The shocking thing is that her book had so many rejections before it landed on Mike O’Mary’s desk. I’m glad Mike had the good judgment to take on Dina Kucera’s book. What a gem!</i> +1 Everything I Never Wanted To Be is brave and powerful, educational without being preachy. Dina Kucera’s insight and wit are sharp, her story raw and real. Her honesty and humor reminds me of Anne Lamott’s writing, but Kucera definitely has her own voice–a voice that cries out to have her pain and challenges heard, yet one that also demonstrates her huge capacity for faith, gratitude, and love of life. Hers is a fresh new voice I feel fortunate to have “heard” and one which will enlighten many to the reality of a family struggling with addiction. The shocking thing is that her book had so many rejections before it landed on Mike O’Mary’s desk. I’m glad Mike had the good judgment to take on Dina Kucera’s book. What a gem!
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]]> Comment on Everything I Never Wanted to Be by Mary M. Wallace http://everythinginever.com/archives/1/comment-page-1#comment-1548 Mary M. Wallace Tue, 06 Sep 2011 17:17:36 +0000 http://everythinginever.com/?p=1#comment-1548 I'd love to read, but the book seems awfully short (barely over 200 pgs) for such a big story. It will be interesting to see how so much gets packed into it. Mary I’d love to read, but the book seems awfully short (barely over 200 pgs) for such a big story. It will be interesting to see how so much gets packed into it.

Mary

]]> Comment on Everything I Never Wanted to Be by Emily Fuentes http://everythinginever.com/archives/1/comment-page-1#comment-554 Emily Fuentes Sun, 27 Mar 2011 06:59:38 +0000 http://everythinginever.com/?p=1#comment-554 hello Dina. my name is Emuily Fuentes. i meet your daughter Aprilcouple months ago. she and i were bunkies at mdc here in albuquerque n.m. we talked and had great laughs together. April is a wonderful girl. she has a good heart. she mentioned your book , i told her id look it up could you please tell April i said hello, and write me sometime? thank you. God Bless you and your family. from my family to yours.Emily Fuentes. hello Dina. my name is Emuily Fuentes. i meet your daughter Aprilcouple months ago. she and i were bunkies at mdc here in albuquerque n.m. we talked and had great laughs together. April is a wonderful girl. she has a good heart. she mentioned your book , i told her id look it up could you please tell April i said hello, and write me sometime? thank you. God Bless you and your family. from my family to yours.Emily Fuentes.

]]> Comment on Everything I Never Wanted to Be by Joel Stein http://everythinginever.com/archives/1/comment-page-1#comment-218 Joel Stein Sat, 08 Jan 2011 02:21:25 +0000 http://everythinginever.com/?p=1#comment-218 How come people who have experienced such trauma write so well? Everything I Never Wanted To Be is so raw and funny that it almost makes me want to have horrible things happen to me so my writing will improve. Until I can orchestrate that, I can enjoy reading about Dina Kucera's horrible life. How come people who have experienced such trauma write so well? Everything I Never Wanted To Be is so raw and funny that it almost makes me want to have horrible things happen to me so my writing will improve. Until I can orchestrate that, I can enjoy reading about Dina Kucera’s horrible life.

]]> Comment on Everything I Never Wanted to Be by Jane Wagner http://everythinginever.com/archives/1/comment-page-1#comment-97 Jane Wagner Thu, 09 Dec 2010 14:10:45 +0000 http://everythinginever.com/?p=1#comment-97 Everything I Never Wanted To Be is brave and powerful, educational without being preachy. Dina Kucera's insight and wit are sharp, her story raw and real. Her honesty and humor reminds me of Anne Lamott's writing, but Kucera definitely has her own voice--a voice that cries out to have her pain and challenges heard, yet one that also demonstrates her huge capacity for faith, gratitude, and love of life. Hers is a fresh new voice I feel fortunate to have "heard" and one which will enlighten many to the reality of a family struggling with addiction. The shocking thing is that her book had so many rejections before it landed on Mike O'Mary's desk. I'm glad Mike had the good judgment to take on Dina Kucera's book. What a gem! Everything I Never Wanted To Be is brave and powerful, educational without being preachy. Dina Kucera’s insight and wit are sharp, her story raw and real. Her honesty and humor reminds me of Anne Lamott’s writing, but Kucera definitely has her own voice–a voice that cries out to have her pain and challenges heard, yet one that also demonstrates her huge capacity for faith, gratitude, and love of life. Hers is a fresh new voice I feel fortunate to have “heard” and one which will enlighten many to the reality of a family struggling with addiction. The shocking thing is that her book had so many rejections before it landed on Mike O’Mary’s desk. I’m glad Mike had the good judgment to take on Dina Kucera’s book. What a gem!

]]> Comment on Biography by holli. http://everythinginever.com/author/biography/comment-page-1#comment-72 holli. Wed, 01 Dec 2010 18:27:53 +0000 http://everythinginever.com#comment-72 Read your book covet to cover in a day. I could not put it down. Probably because it hits home for me.. only difference is my 40-something year old mother isn't a child. Thanks for the hope! Good work girl. Read your book covet to cover in a day. I could not put it down. Probably because it hits home for me.. only difference is my 40-something year old mother isn’t a child. Thanks for the hope! Good work girl.

]]> Comment on If I Were You… by Dina Kucera http://everythinginever.com/author/if-i-were-you/comment-page-1#comment-70 Dina Kucera Mon, 29 Nov 2010 15:59:27 +0000 http://everythinginever.com#comment-70 Lisa:) I don't know that any parent allows their child to walk down a destructive path. But I have been you. You know Lisa, these kids will wear you in to the ground. I completely get it. And they are 16 and they are going to do whatever they feel like doing and despite what so many people believe, if they are bent on it, they are going to do it. Our homes are not set up like jails. There are doors and windows and kids can exit through them any time they want. Even when you tell them not to. Clearly, something is going on with your son. There has got to be a way to say to him, "I know we are not getting along so great. But I am your mom and I love you and I want you to know that there is nothing you can tell me that will make me not love you. If there is something going on in your life that is making your heart heavy, I will help you." I have had many different times when I am looking at one of the kids saying I love you, you are so amazing and in my head I am thinking, "Don't choke her." Say the words anyway. On the other side of the coin, the world right now, it's really not so easy for kids. Teens are under a ton of social stress. I think if you make it clear to him that your end is open, it may take some time, but at some point he will come to you. If it is a drug or alcohol problem the sooner you get him in to the system, the better. A human being is never too young to be an addict. There is a good community of young sober people in every city. There are young people meetings, outpatient programs, and you can find those online. There are AA and NA meetings just for teens and that is amazing. He could meet some people that are going through the same stuff. In the mean time, after the drug issue has been addressed and while he works at the grocery store, is there something he is really interested in? Art? Acting? Writing? There are classes that are very inexpensive around town and those activities may help him focus on something he can feel passion for. If he says he's not interested in anything like most kids, really? You can do ANYTHING! You are 16!! You have the entire world at your feet!!! And a charter school may be a better fit for him. All is not lost. He is 16 and has an entire life in front of him. And Lisa, for you, I know how hard it is. Do what you can to get him in to the system of recovery so he doesn't have to go in the system of jails. That may be a good thing to explain to him. If our kids will not allow us to keep them safe, we have to call in back up, courts, police, jail... and that is not what we want. I'm sure your son is a great kid. I'm sure you are a great mom. It's hard, right? Ahh... freeking kids. Let me know the events. I pray for some peace in your house and in your heart:) Dina Lisa:)
I don’t know that any parent allows their child to walk down a destructive path. But I have been you. You know Lisa, these kids will wear you in to the ground. I completely get it. And they are 16 and they are going to do whatever they feel like doing and despite what so many people believe, if they are bent on it, they are going to do it. Our homes are not set up like jails. There are doors and windows and kids can exit through them any time they want. Even when you tell them not to. Clearly, something is going on with your son. There has got to be a way to say to him, “I know we are not getting along so great. But I am your mom and I love you and I want you to know that there is nothing you can tell me that will make me not love you. If there is something going on in your life that is making your heart heavy, I will help you.” I have had many different times when I am looking at one of the kids saying I love you, you are so amazing and in my head I am thinking, “Don’t choke her.” Say the words anyway. On the other side of the coin, the world right now, it’s really not so easy for kids. Teens are under a ton of social stress. I think if you make it clear to him that your end is open, it may take some time, but at some point he will come to you. If it is a drug or alcohol problem the sooner you get him in to the system, the better. A human being is never too young to be an addict. There is a good community of young sober people in every city. There are young people meetings, outpatient programs, and you can find those online. There are AA and NA meetings just for teens and that is amazing. He could meet some people that are going through the same stuff. In the mean time, after the drug issue has been addressed and while he works at the grocery store, is there something he is really interested in? Art? Acting? Writing? There are classes that are very inexpensive around town and those activities may help him focus on something he can feel passion for. If he says he’s not interested in anything like most kids, really? You can do ANYTHING! You are 16!! You have the entire world at your feet!!! And a charter school may be a better fit for him. All is not lost. He is 16 and has an entire life in front of him. And Lisa, for you, I know how hard it is. Do what you can to get him in to the system of recovery so he doesn’t have to go in the system of jails. That may be a good thing to explain to him. If our kids will not allow us to keep them safe, we have to call in back up, courts, police, jail… and that is not what we want. I’m sure your son is a great kid. I’m sure you are a great mom. It’s hard, right? Ahh… freeking kids. Let me know the events. I pray for some peace in your house and in your heart:) Dina

]]> Comment on If I Were You… by Lisa http://everythinginever.com/author/if-i-were-you/comment-page-1#comment-67 Lisa Sat, 27 Nov 2010 20:00:59 +0000 http://everythinginever.com#comment-67 What if you are allowing your child to walk down "that road" and they are only 16. I'm trapped. I have a year and a half until I can change the locks on my door. He has dropped out of school, works at Safeway and we have NO communication. Any suggestions. I'buying your book. What if you are allowing your child to walk down “that road” and they are only 16. I’m trapped. I have a year and a half until I can change the locks on my door. He has dropped out of school, works at Safeway and we have NO communication. Any suggestions. I’buying your book.

]]> Comment on Everything I Never Wanted to Be by Alcoholism http://everythinginever.com/archives/1/comment-page-1#comment-46 Alcoholism Wed, 10 Nov 2010 02:41:18 +0000 http://everythinginever.com/?p=1#comment-46 In SMART recovery we have drug users of all types. The meth users are always asking about this. In SMART recovery we have drug users of all types. The meth users are always asking about this.

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